What Happened to Dating?
All women crave romance. The shy coffee barista with amazing brown eyes. The boss lady lawyer with her vintage Chanel briefcase. The woman in her 70's with an incredible number of cats. We... well I'll speak for myself I adore romance. Yet I feel as if most women aren't fulfilled on that forefront. Especially women within my generation.
I was having coffee with a good friend of mine discussing girl things. She's trying to get back into dating and I just so happen to be the friend with the best dating advice. She takes out her phone and starts scrolling through the unmentionable realms of tinder. I ask to view her messages, and I'm then lost in a sea of "Hey", "Hello. How's your day going", "Wanna hook up?". Out of the 15 or so messages I glanced through there was only one message with a proper introduction which indicated he took the time to read her profile.
Of course, I recommended that she put her efforts towards him, but he ultimately was a disappointment as he didn't care to take the time to plan a proper first date and just suggested they meet for coffee near his job. How do you properly get to know someone when 1) You're barely awake yourself? 2) In the middle of a workday. Not an appropriate first date.
Living in a world where we work more, Netflix too much & going out to eat is a chore it's left many women's dating life in shambles.
I can speak from personal experience that men I've met outside of Selene have been disappointing. They don't care to take the time to plan dates & it's frustrating because I always plan on presenting my best self to whomever I meet. The few that I have been on dates with suffer from "millennial tendencies" of constantly being on the phone, needing to snap every aspect of the date & generally not engaged in conversation. It makes me sad that this is the state of romance in 2018.
Fortunately, things changed over the past year due to my wonderful friends I've met through Selene! I still have plenty of scrapbook worthy moments I want to share with a special someone, but I'm always overjoyed when I receive an extended consultation request as it feeds that romantic need that we all have. Nothing can replace the feeling of butterflies fluttering in your stomach walking into the venue shyly looking around at all of the parties around you with your phone in hand just in case they haven't made it yet. Some gentlemen prefer to flatter the lady with flowers or gifts, but that person's presence alone gives you a glow and puts you at ease. As the night unfolds itself who knows what will happen or where we will end up. But I promise it would be a memorable experience like no other.
Until next time,